Have you ever been asked how you’re doing and had no idea how to respond? I have been in that place for months now. It goes a little something like this:
Friend: “Hey girl! How are you doing? How have you been? (Crickets…)
Me: “Oh, you know… good I guess? Actually, I don’t know to be honest. I think I’m good? Fine? Making it?”
Have you ever responded that way? It sure doesn’t feel good, and it’s generally followed by tears at the realization I have not assessed my own heart and mind in far too long.
Life is so busy, and I often feel like my life is in control of me, rather than me being in control of my life. Many things can get us to this place: lack of boundaries (not saying “no” when you probably should have), busy seasons outside of your control (birthdays, start of school, travel), times of suffering or transition — you name it. We’re all susceptible to landing in this place of unknowing, and rarely is it intentional.
My interest is not in the circumstances that got us there (because they’re always different and oftentimes out of our control), but the daily rituals or lack thereof that cause us to return to this place of “self-unawareness” time and time again.
I think we can all agree it’s important to have self-awareness. It affects everything in our daily lives — what we believe about ourselves, how we treat others, how we eat, how we spend our time, etc.
“ASSESSING HOW WE’RE DOING IS AN IMPORTANT ACT OF SELF-CARE THAT ALLOWS US TO CARE NOT ONLY FOR OURSELVES BUT FOR THOSE WE LOVE AS WELL.”
There are many ways we can do this, and it’s important for each of us to find a way or ways that resonate with us and will be easy to apply. I’ve given this some thought and I want to share some practical ways of becoming more self-aware with you that I think are simple and a good place to start:
*Quick tip: This might be easier if you turn on your side table light to help you wake up.
Let’s be those that are self-aware for the sake of loving God well, loving ourselves well and loving others well. I am hopeful introducing one or more of these little habits into your day could make you more mindful and emotionally healthy. These practices have helped me to be more thoughtful, intentional and joyful in the midst of the mundane — and hopefully have made me a little less moody too.
May we be friends, parents, spouses and children that respond to people in grace and walk in peace by being more aware of our own emotional state. Not only are the people in your life worth it, you are worth it too!
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